Couples

I provide couples with a supportive environment in which to explore the issues that are causing conflict or emotional distance.  As a neutral third party, I am able to help couples to communicate more effectively and to strengthen the connection between them.

I use science-based theories and interventions developed by psychologist and author John Gottman.  The Gottman Relationship Institute has conducted studies on couples for decades, and has discovered practical strategies and skills to improve relationships.

In addition, I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson.  EFT is a short-term approach to therapy that has been proven to help 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and about 90% show significant improvements.  EFT is based on John Bowlby’s attachment theories and research, and works by strengthening the connection and attachment bond between partners.

I assist couples that have an interest in spirituality in using their relationship as a spiritual path.  Using practices derived from Buddhism and mindfulness studies, I help them to integrate greater awareness and new practices into their relationship. As psychologist and author John Welwood writes, “The first step to using relationship conflict as a path is to shift our focus away from the heat of the struggle and explore its source inside ourselves. Any serious relationship can always point us to wounded places inside ourselves that we have turned away from, and that need attention and healing.”